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Five Years

It has been five years since I graduated from college.

It has been five years since I moved to Chicago.

It has been five years since I wrecked my car in a fender bender the day before I graduated from college.

It has been five years since Hurricane Katrina formed over the ocean, and it is getting close to five years to the day that she barrelled over the Gulf Coast.

Have I mentioned that I lived in New Orleans for the four years prior to Hurricane Katrina? I moved, just before the storm, holding on to my old 504 area code and a glass jar of my prettiest Mardi Gras catches. Law school started and we were not more than a week in when suddenly, I was distracted by images and stories of the town that turned me into who I was…turning into some putrid. Rotten. Swollen to the brim with murky water, the air filled with eerie silence and cries for help and animals searching for their owners. Not the sounds I was accustomed to; the rumble of the street car late at night and hum of mosquitoes and the clinks of melting ice in glasses on front porches.

I can’t really tell you what that fog was like for the first week, other than to say I looked at every single photo posted on major American news sites. I saw photos of friends waist deep in water, of favorite places left in wet ruins. I spent a lot of time sending emails and making phone calls, trying to track down friends and loved ones. Were they in Atlanta? Houston? Had they made it Shreveport or only to Baton Rouge?

I went back in January of 2006 and volunteered my time for a week. I wore work gloves and masks and I pulled carpet and molded dry wall out of two homes. I ate cold military ration meals and I cried a lot. This place was so familiar and yet so foreign and it didn’t seem like I was even making a dent.

On my own, I probably didn’t make a dent. But my efforts, in combination with the efforts of hundreds of thousands of other volunteers; some as organized as the American Red Cross, others in school groups like my own, made a dent. We tossed and sorted and nailed and drilled and slowly but surely New Orleans rose from the rubble, like a modern day phoenix. Built on the sweat and tears and belief of its residents, both literally and those who adopted it, realizing that America needed the City That Care Forgot to be…complete.

Favorite places slowly reopened, some with new management most with new floors. Plaques were quietly nailed to walls marking the water line at that particular location. Red beans & rice began to bubble away on stove tops and Mardi Gras Krewes rebuilt their floats & tossed beads once again.

In January of 2010, when the New Orleans Saints won the Superbowl, I cried quietly. B asked me why I wasn’t more outgoing, why I wasn’t whooping and hollering. I couldn’t explain, I couldn’t say much other than to keep repeating the phrase ”I Believed” as tears spilled out of my eyes. The Superdome, once the place where I graduated from college, then an international symbol for human suffering and despair had suddenly become the home of the greatest football team that year. The home of fans and residents who stood by a team and a city that no one else had much hope for.

New Orleans, I always believed. I always will.

And I will always come home.

All About…Daisy

Daisy, circa 1985

I know, right? I write a blog all about my life and now I’m going to write a post all about me.  I’m just that self-centered! Perhaps I’ve done this before but frankly, I’m too lazy to look into my archives so here we go again. New readers: enjoy! Old readers: I hope I’m not boring you. Mom: hush.

1. I’ve lived in: Washington, Idaho, Arizona (twice), Virginia, Alabama, Utah, Dallas, New Orleans and Chicago. I also spent eight years overseas, living in England and Germany. My Mom and & Dad both grew up in California but my Dad’s family was from the South (Georgia) which is where we spent a lot of my summers as a kid. Now my Dad’s family is spread out all over the South while my Mom’s family is in California.

2. While I consider myself to be from the South, I live in Chicago and I’m married to a man who was born and raised in Detroit which is where my desire to make pot roast in December comes from. They don’t really make pot roast in the South, but my husband definitely endures a lot of grits for breakfast. He’d never had grits until we got married. Blasphemy. My point being: we love both cheese curds & cheese straws.

3. I have one birth mark, it is on the bottom of my right foot.

4. I have blonde curly hair but tragically didn’t really realize it was curly until I was about 16. That explains why my photos from age 10 to 16 are so……awkward. And poofy. I want to reach in with a straight iron and fix all those yearbook shots.

5. In high school I was on the cheerleading squad and the debate team. (I think this is where my Gemini personality comes in.) I was a better debator than cheerleader, which is why I’m now a lawyer and not in Dallas dancing for the Cowboys. Nothing shouts “cool kid” like showing up 5 minutes late to a football game and tying your ribbons in your hair as you run on the field because your debate tournament ran late. Nothing.

6.  I moved to Chicago from New Orleans 2 months before Hurricane Katrina hit. That storm is one of the defining moments of my life and I still cry when I see images from it.

7. I started blogging in law school when I needed an outlet from the absurdity of the gunners, the library, the final exams from hell and people with Supreme Court Justice aspirations (hint: it isn’t going to happen, idiot). After I became a grown-up lawyer I moved to this space, where I like to think I’m slightly more mature. In reality, I think I just swear a little bit less.

8. I cook, a lot. My baking skills are mediocre (I’m not big on measuring) but I’m slowly working on that as well. My husband’s most requested meal is pork tenderloin, goat cheese mashed potatoes and veggies. My favorite meal to make is risotto & I think that I have finally perfected the art of a roasted chicken and a homemade cheesecake. Typically not for the same meal.

9. I live in the city of Chicago but I work in a suburb 29.6 miles from my house. This means I spend about 3 hours a day in the car commuting, even though I leave my house at 6 in the morning and I leave the office at 3 in the afternoon to try and avoid peak traffic times. In other news: when I’m wealthy, my first splurge is going to be on a driver.

10. I have an obsession with dishes and china that you can read about here. I make no apologies, but if I invite you over for dinner, please feel free to request a certain pattern. I’m happy to oblige.

11. One day B and I will have kids, but right now we are enjoying our newlywed life. We got married a year ago in October in Savannah, Georgia. (10-10-2009) It was everything we wanted and more, especially the food. We served heavy appetizers and had food stations instead of a plated dinner and it was easily the best decision of our wedding. Bonus? I didn’t have to create a seating chart. Win-win! 

12. We have a beagle, Rhett Butler, who makes coming home from work even more fun. His hijinks are featured regularly here. We also have a nephew, Baby Z, whom we love dearly but don’t get to see nearly enough.

13. I have one brother and B has no siblings which means our future kids will not grow up like I did, with 12 aunts and uncles and cousins galore. This makes me a little sad, but I have no doubt I’ll assuage that guilt with extra trips to Disney World.

14. I’m a klutz, I often speak before I think, I chatter aimlessly when I am nervous and I have a constant case of foot-in-mouth syndrome. If you can get past these things, we will probably be good friends.

15. I am training for a 109 mile bike race that I’m riding in November of 2011. I am reminded daily of what a silly decision this was, normally when I’m putting on my compression fit biking shorts with the padded ass.

16. I monogram everything. It is how I do things.

First World Problems

Here is where I discuss some problems I have, that are decidedly first world, and I give all of you free-reign to roll your eyes at me. That said, please no emails along the lines of “OH BOO HOO TO YOU, GOING ON VACATION, WHINE, SOME PEOPLE DON’T EVEN HAVE DRIED LENTILS FOR DINNER YOUR WHORE-FACE YOU.” Those emails will be promptly deleted, you hear?

1. When I graduated from law school my parents very generously bought me a very, very nice watch as a gift. I love the watch. The watch is lovely. I wear it every day, except sometimes I forget to wear it when I work from home because I don’t get all dressed up, and my watch gets its energy from me (read: no battery) and so then it stops running because it hasn’t gotten any new juice in over 24 hours. But I don’t notice it stops running so I’ll be at work (and it starts running again when I put it back on) and look at my watch and go “Hmm. I doubt it is 6:37 am seeing as how I just ate lunch.” Anyway what I’m saying is: my watch is continuously the wrong time. Whimper.

2. I get a certain number of “passes” to fly for free on my Dad’s airline (that he works for, not that he owns, come on now) and if there is an open seat and the stars align, I can sit my bum in it for free. Which is very nice and all, except the stars never align when I want them to, so I spend a lot of time saying “I’d love to make it, I’ll be there if I can get a seat” and doing the “lucky” dance in the airport, willing a paying passenger to come down with a horrible bout of the flu and sheepishly go home, leaving the seat for me so I can make it to said wedding shower/birthday party/small vacation. It is very stressful, let me tell you and sometimes you don’t make it all the way and you have to call your friends or family and say “Have fun without me! I’m in Boise!” which lets face it, is not fun. Not fun at all. Anyway, I really want to fly to California in a few weeks for my cousin’s bridal shower and the flights are already full which means I’m not going. Sad-Daisy. That said, for whatever reason, the flights are wide open 2 weekends later to get to New Orleans for a friend’s engagement party, so I’m going! Except it is the weekend after BlogHer and I’m going to be one sad pile of tired-Daisy. Maybe I’ll have to look into that Red Bull nonsense my friends always rave about. I already got an email telling me to fly down in French Quarter appropriate attire except I have to fit the dress code for my free ticket, so that’ll be one neat outfit.

3. My Whole Foods is constantly out of their bakery made cookies with vegan chocolate chips and so I stand there, going through all the boxes of peanut butter (yuck), oatmeal raisin (triple yuck) and cranberry (why Whole Foods, why?) boxes of cookies hoping a lone box of chocolate chip is floating around. It never is. This makes me very sad indeed. Then I finally scored a box of chocolate chip and brought them home, so excited, only to open the box and discover- blech- they were stale. Whats up with that??

4. My laptop now makes a dreadful noise whenever it is unplugged and the battery only lasts 10 minutes. I keep willing it to hang on until February when I (hope and pray) to get a new laptop (iMac!) but I think it heard me say “February, 2011″ so it is intent on exploding this summer. *Shakes my fist at sky*

5. The same thing with RB’s bed. I decided he’d get a new bed for Christmas (my, isn’t that exciting) and so now he tries to Dig to China in his bed every night before he goes to sleep. CHRISTMAS BUDDY. YOU’LL SLEEP ON THE FLOOR FROM NOW UNTIL SANTA ARRIVES, YOU HEAR?

6. Netflix has been taking its sweet time to process my DVDs as of late. As in I mail it in and then SEVEN DAYS later I get an email saying the DVD arrived. I’m no fool, that facility is in the Chicago-land area. My letters to London arrive in five days. I’m onto you Netflix and I have no shame in jumping on that class-action-lawsuit band wagon. (Or the Postal Service found this here blog and is like “Oh yeah sweetie. We got you covered. NO DVDS FOR YOU.”)